• Michele Duhigg

3 of My Best Kept Secrets When Using the Law of Attraction

Updated: Jul 27, 2020

A step-by-step guide for the exact model I use with my clients.

You feel insane trying all those different mindset programs – only to end up with the same exact results. You’ve applied to every high-level job you can think of. You beefed up your resume. Not to mention, you spent over a decade working the hardest, most rewarding job out there – being a mom.

But now your kids are off to college, and you finally have time to focus on your dreams rather than putting everyone else first. Maybe you’ll start that Etsy shop you’ve been daydreaming about, or maybe you’ll leap into the corporate world – whatever your dream may be, I have a secret for you.

It's not about taking action. It’s about the emotion behind your action that’s driving you forward.

What’s your inner voice telling you?

Are you your biggest fan?

Or do you deep down feel unworthy?

Wherever you’re at in your journey, you’ll benefit from my exact method for getting my life coaching clients the results they deserve – right here, right now, right below.

The Best Definition of “Law of Attraction”

Simply put the law of attraction (LOA) is the idea that like energies attract others like energies. So, positive energy will attract other positive energies, and negative energy will attract other negative energies.

It may not be obvious right away, but we’re human magnets when it comes to energies. For example, if you were to take a step back and observe your inner circle, you’d find your friends are similar to you.

The Law of Attraction has been taught for many years. It was the primary concept for what Buddha taught. And it’s seen in other religions such as Christianity in the book of Proverbs.

This isn’t only a religious belief though, it’s also proven by science. The way energy sources attract each other comes down to the basic laws of physics. We’re constant creators and controllers of our own lives and the energy in them.

Ever heard of karma? That’s the Law of Attraction. It’s believed that what you put out into the world you’ll receive back. And if you’re reading this article I’m going to assume you’re looking to avoid bad karma.

But here’s the thing – you also already know how to use the LOA, you just don’t call it that. So keep on reading. By the end of this article, you’ll know exactly what you need to do to manifest the life of your dreams.

Discover How to Use the Law of Attraction

Motivation is key when it comes to the Law of Attraction. You won’t see results right away, but if you consistently perform the same act every day – you’ll start experiencing results. You have to open your mind. Give space for yourself to step into the life you want to create. Consistency over time equals results.

After a couple of weeks of power housing all the things you’ll burn out and want to quit. So below I’ll map out a simple starting line. Establishing your goals, creating, and truly feeling the feelings behind achieving them is the key to staying motivated. This is why I focus on this specific way of envisioning your best life so much in my program.

How to Envision Your Best Life

When I first started the work I’m about to teach you I’ll admit my future goals were a little shallow. And shallow meaning not descriptive. So, my coach guided me to sit in a quiet place, close my eyes, and take three deep breaths.

She asked me to really picture the woman I wanted to be in five years. I was in a space of feeling I could do more for the world, but I felt stuck and didn’t know how to get there. My coach didn’t simply tell me what to do, instead, she asked me a series of questions. My answers helped me create my reason for needing to change my life – my “why”. My motivation.

Below are some of the questions she asked me. I encourage you to ask yourself these questions and write the answers down in a journal. Write a story even.

  • What does she look like?

  • How is she dressed?

  • Where does she live?

  • How does she feel?

  • How does she make others feel?

  • Is she married with kids?

  • What does she do for work?

These are just a few questions to get you started. But the key is to be as specific as possible.

Your goal is to feel good emotions when you think of your future. That way when you think of your future, it’s not just a stale thought – it creates positive emotions. And those positive emotions will put out positive vibrations and attract positive things to you. When you can feel where you want to be your “why” becomes stronger.

3 Dreams to Create Your Best Life

Now that you’ve established your “why” let’s begin your “how” strategy. After I wrote out my future story I thought of three specific goals that would make my overall dream possible. I saw myself as living a life of freedom where I could help people everyday.

Freedom to me looked like vacationing whenever I wanted to, working from home, and never stressing about finances. I needed to be my own boss. I started to pay attention to what sparked passion in me – this clued me in on what business I should start in. I also needed to be financially free. So my three dreams looked like this:

  • I have a a successful life coaching business, and help a multitude of people everyday.

  • I’m debt free.

  • I have $1 million in my bank.

Notice that I didn’t say, “ I will have…” or, “ I will be…” That’s because speaking in present tense is a crucial part of this process – because it tells your brain what evidence it should look for to make your thoughts a reality. This topic is covered more in-depth in my blog on the Reticular Activating System, so I highly recommend you go check that out once you’re finished here. But for now identify three specific goals that have to be true for you to achieve your dream life.

2 Powerful Everyday Actions You Can Start Doing Now

Imagine you have five nails and one hammer. Your goal is to hammer all of the nails into the wall to hang a picture. How would you start? Do you hammer one nail in at a time? Or do you try to hammer all five of them in at once?

This seems silly, right? Obviously you hammer one nail in at a time. This is no different than taking action toward your dream. You’ll want to pick one of the truths you listed. Whichever seems most important at the time. Then identify two actions you can take each day to prove that truth.

If I’m a successful business owner as a life coach helping a multitude of people every day – what actions am I taking to make that true? Keep your future self in mind.

This is how you create sustainable motivation. Focusing on two actions rather than doing all the things will help you be consistent.

1 Limiting Belief You Can Breakthrough Today

You might not know what limiting beliefs are. And that’s okay – because I’ll give you a crash course right now.

Limiting beliefs are those small voices in your head making you feel bad. If you’re thinking you don’t have them, listen up because they’re there. When you get that tight feeling in your stomach. When your clothes feel tight. When you apply for a promotion you might hear:

  • “I’m not experienced enough to do this.”

  • “I spend hours each day at the gym and feel no different!”

  • “I’m not good enough.”

These are a few beliefs that still circle through my head at times. But to identify them I had to be more aware of the thoughts in my head. It’s hard at first, but if you invest time in this process I’m sure you’ll find a couple limiting beliefs.

No matter how long your list of beliefs is, it doesn’t matter – because none of them are true. If your thoughts don’t motivate you to go after your dreams then they’re a waste of space in your brain.

Your Law of Attraction Planner

The steps outlined above are a great start to building your perfect law of attraction planner – or journal, whichever you’d like to call it. Awareness of who you want to be is your first step to rewriting your mindset. Once you have awareness of your thoughts you can take control of how you feel and vibrate more positive energy toward your goals.

An easy way to remember my LOA method is: evision, 3, 2, 1.

  • First envision your future in detail.

  • Then identify 3 dreams.

  • Decide on 2 everyday actions.

  • Pinpoint 1 limiting belief.

I found writing my “envision, 3, 2, 1 method” down gives me tangible evidence to put into the world. I hold myself accountable. I make it a priority to set time aside each day.

Because here’s the thing – only you are responsible for your happiness. And since happiness is a choice, what method will you choose to achieve it?

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